Frequently Asked Questions
What is Life Coaching?
Life Coaching is becoming a friend to a young person who needs a friend. It requires no specialized skills. Life Coaches simply need only to love God and to love young people. They should have some gift for friendship, good listening skills, empathy and ability to relate well to young people. Life Coaches® commit to a minimum of one year relationship with the child they mentor. As trust and authentic friendship is developed Coaches are able to share who they are and what they are learning about how to be the person God created them to be. Kids often come to a new understanding of themselves, their gifts and their purpose. Our prayer is that they develop a strong commitment to love and serve God and to love and serve others as well.
In short, Life Coaching is believing in someone until they believe in themselves. It is loving someone until they can love themselves. It is walking with Jesus alongside a friend until they can walk with Jesus by themselves. We believe that in the course of these long term friendships (the best relationships often last two to three years), that many of these young people will get to the point in their lives where they will commit to ending that this cycle of father absence. They will commit to finding the right young woman or young man to marry before they themselves have children and they will commit themselves to that spouse and to God to stay in the marriage and to be the kind of parent to their children that God desires.
How Do We Get Started?
Most Life Coaches® ministries are led by a lay person or couple. Pastors are generally too busy to take on another ministry, but pastoral support that is passionate and encouragement that is constant is vital to the success of this work. We call the lay leader a Life Coaches® Director. The Director is someone who feels called to this ministry and who God has equipped with effective leadership and organizational skills to make it happen. Life Coaches administrative leadership will meet with the interested Pastor(s) and lay leadership to discuss the process and to determine the best timing and approach for launching the ministry at the church.
The best way to get started is to attend a Life Coaches® Orientation and Training Seminar. Register here for the next training.
What is the Role of the Life Coaches® Director?
The lay person who feels called to lead this ministry and who is approved by the pastoral leadership and Life Coaches is critical to the success of the work. Their role involves:
• Recruiting a Steering Committee
• Promoting the ministry in the church
• Arranging for a kick-off Sunday pulpit announcement
• Coordinating the Orientation and Training Session for prospective Life Coaches
• Promoting the opportunity to single parents and single-parent youth
• Connecting with other community groups like inner city para-church ministries or children of prisoner ministries for access to father absent kids.
• Interviewing prospective Coaches
• Reference checking and getting background checks done on prospective Coaches
• Matching Coaches and kids
• Supporting the relationships that develop with regular phone calls to parents and Coaches.
• Holding “Huddles” with Coaches three times a year
• Attending Director “Huddles” three times a year
• Regular updates with the church and pastoral leadership
The time requirement for a Life Coaches® Director is similar to that of a lay leader for a Men’s or Women’s ministry. Four to five hours per week is often required to get the ministry launched and a similar time commitment is required to support it on an ongoing basis.
How does the Life Coach® Director get trained?
Life Coaches provides individualized training to the person approved by the church to lead the ministry. The initial training involves the five hour Orientation and Training session given to all prospective Life Coaches plus an individual five hour session with the prospective Director. All Directors meet three times a year with other Directors in their area for Huddles with the Life Coaches Program Director. Huddles provide opportunities for Life Coach leaders to learn from each other how best to support the ministries in their respective churches. Life Coaches provides monthly consultative support to Directors on an ongoing basis.
How does Life Coaches differ from Big Brothers/Big Sisters or other mentoring organizations?
There are a number of helpful mentoring organizations for young people, but Life Coaches exists to address several unique differences:
• Life Coaches® is a Christian mentoring ministry. Life Coaches® believes that while traditional community based mentoring can be helpful to kids, that transformation require a holistic approach best embodied in a mentor with a deep commitment to following Jesus Christ as Lord and life leader. Unlike most mentoring organizations, Life Coaches® requires that all mentors be followers of Jesus and display character qualities and a lifestyle consistent with traditional Christian teachings.
• Life Coaches® is an equipping ministry and not a direct provider of mentoring relationships. The actual mentoring is done by church and para-church partners. Our role is to help cast a vision for this ministry and to equip our partners through training and consultative support to become largely self sufficient in leading their Life Coaching ministry on an ongoing basis.
• Life Coaches for Kids® becomes a ministry of the partnering church and is shaped in a way that best meets the needs of the church and community. While Life Coaches® has a few basic guidelines, every attempt is made to work with local partners to design the ministry in a way that best meets the needs of their congregation and communities.
Is Life Coaches® primarily designed for single parent kids in our church, for those in the community or for an outreach to the inner city?
Jesus told the early church that when they begin the work of discipleship they should begin first in Jerusalem and then reach out to other parts of Judea, Samaria and the rest of the world. For most of our partners, beginning in Jerusalem means providing a Life Coach opportunity to every single parent child in their congregation. They then reach out to others in their surrounding communities, perhaps through partnerships with schools or social agencies that serve kids in the neighborhood. Many of our church partners also reach out to kids in the inner city. This is often done in collaboration and partnership with an inner city church or para-church ministry. Life Coaches works with several children of prisoner ministries that are eager to partner with churches.
Is our church the right size for this ministry?
Most successful Life Coach ministries are in churches of one thousand regular attenders or more. Initial classes of prospective Life Coaches usually average fifteen to twenty persons from a church of one thousand members. A good goal for the first year of the ministry is to match ten to twenty adults with a corresponding number of young people in Life Coaching friendships.
What happens after the first two years?
Over the course of the first two years, Life Coaches® will have worked with your Life Coach Director and Leadership Team, will have conducted Orientation and Training Sessions for prospective Coaches and will have equipped the church to carry on the ministry as on ongoing part of the church's ministry and outreach. Ongoing training or consultative assistance continues to be provided for all subsequent years of the partnership and is provided by the Life Coaches organization at no additional cost.
Where are other Life Coach ministries operating?
Life Coaches started in 1997 in partnership with Urban Ventures Leadership Foundation in Minneapolis. Beginning in 2000, it organized as a separate 501C3 organization and began partnering with a variety of churches and para-church organizations in Minnesota. While we are still a mostly regional ministry, some interest has been expressed by many churches and organizations throughout the United States and increasingly other countries. Our Asian partner is Emerging Young Leaders in Asia and we are currently developing partnerships in several new cities in the USA. We are also currently partnering with several ministries that work with children of prisoners, including Prison Fellowship’s Angel Tree. A list of churches and contacts in your area will be provided on request.
